Breakup: Understanding, Navigating, and Bouncing Back

A breakup is one of the most emotionally challenging experiences a person can go through. It can trigger an intense mix of sadness, anger, confusion, and sometimes a sense of emptiness. As a psychologist, I regularly support people during this stage, helping them understand what they are experiencing and regain emotional balance.

Understanding Emotional Reactions After a Breakup

A separation often triggers a process similar to grief, as described by Kübler-Ross’s model (1969): shock, denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and finally, acceptance.
These stages are not linear — it is common to move back and forth between them. Psychological studies (Sbarra & Emery, 2005) have shown that a breakup can activate brain areas linked to physical pain, which explains the intensity of the emotions felt.

Psychological and Physical Effects

The end of a romantic relationship can lead to:

• Lower self-esteem (Lewandowski et al., 2007)
  
  
• Sleep or appetite disturbances
  
  
• Increased stress and anxiety (Mearns, 1991)
  
  

These reactions are normal in the short term. However, if they persist or worsen, it is important to seek professional support.

Strategies for Getting Through This Period

Several approaches can help overcome a breakup:

• Surround yourself with social support: friends, family, or support groups (Cohen & Wills, 1985)
  
  
• Take care of yourself: balanced diet, regular physical activity, consistent sleep patterns
  
  
• Express your emotions: keep a journal, engage in creative activities, talk to a professional
  
  
• Refocus on yourself: rediscover your passions, set new personal goals

Bouncing Back and Rebuilding

According to a study by Tashiro & Frazier (2003), some people are able to draw positive lessons from a breakup, such as better self-understanding or a clearer sense of their relationship expectations.
With time and proper support, it is possible to transform this painful experience into an opportunity for personal growth.

A breakup is a challenge, but it is not the end. It can become a starting point for a life that is more aligned with your needs and values.

If you are currently going through this stage, know that psychological support can help you better understand your emotions and move forward more peacefully.

If you feel the need for guidance during this time, do not hesitate to contact me to book an appointment so we can move forward together towards a new balance.